Relationships

The other day, somebody asked me that being in a relationship, how would i rate myself on the scale of 10??? And i started wondering...Rating??? of a relationship??? Is it necessary?? Do we "The Humans" need that sort of parameter to judge our relationships???

I guess yes...From time to time...We need to review our relationships...from our partner to the close ones including friends, colleagues & obviously family members...And believe me this is the most useful tool, which leads to better understanding, better communication and most importantly better life...

Conclusions are the worst part of any relationship....Observing other's thoughts, their acts and then making our own conclusions, It happens with almost everybody...And i am not denying that arriving on conclusions in any relationship can be ignored....BUT how many of us actually communicate such conclusions with others, most importantly with our partners??? And even if we do, how many of us actually strengthen as well as improvise our bondings???

There comes a period in our life when we observe people around, involved in a relationship...We observe their mistakes , observe the Dos and Dont s....And commit to ourselves that we wont be like this..We wont do like that Etc...Etc..

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When we involve in a relationship...Such things are repeated....And then we remember the time, when we had committed to ourselves of not doing such things...

Why such things happen??? Why there is a worst period in almost every relationship??? Why there are more tensed faces these days???? Why do we use terms like "Past relationships"???? Why couples have "worst period of our life" kinda thinking...

The best part of a relationship is its initial stages....those lovely conversations, those phone calls, those dreams about a perfect future, those meetings without letting anybody know, those sweet emotions and gestures with perfect timing.....and those commitments...But we tend to forget everything as the time passes by...Coz we start concentrating on the other aspects of life like career, friends, family...and somewhere back of the mind we keep this fact alive that ok there is somebody to take care of me, there is somebody to share all the problems etc etc but we forget that there is the same person who thinks the same way we do...who reciprocates the same way as we do...And we start taking that person for granted....and the problems starts by then..

How much efforts does it takes to hold your partner's hand??? How much energy do we lose in sharing our honest and true emotions and feelings??? How much "Self respect" do we lose while acknowledging our own mistakes in a relationship??? I guess everybody of us have this answer...But somewhere down the line, we present ourselves more like a practical and matured person....

And the problem increases as soon as we try to solve it...Coz there is no way people can arrive on a solution by just communicating with each other...Problems can be solved only if we keep the conclusions aside...Only if we initiate some thinking process rather than acting stupid...Only if we start thinking from our partner's point of view....Only we keep aside all the heated verbal arguments, bad experiences of the past and meet as if we are meeting for the first time....But is that possible???

There is always a thin line between "Adjustments" and "Changes"..Adjustment are for a shorter period whereas Changes are forever...And if you ask me which one is fruitful in a relationship...I will always opt for Changes rather than short term adjustments...because these short term adjustments leads to a bigger problem called "Used to"....Yes..We get used to our emotions and acts...and finally there comes the saturation in the relationship...And then we ask ourselves...Where has the excitement gone??? Where is our relationship heading???

Well..I shall not be able to answer these questions...Since i have not gone through this, being in a relationship but yes....such relationships have taught me enough lessons to lead a perfect life...Amen :)

Prasoon